Hi Iβm Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
Relationships & The Emotional Hierarchy
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The first step to turning an unhealthy relationship into a healthy one is taking care of yourself. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTSI recently shared a story on threads about my husband and I in couples counseling. In the story, I talked about how I thought I had our problem all figured out but I was wrong. Something I didn't expect from sharing that story, was how many people would commend me for admitting my fault and taking accountability. I realized what a strength it is to admit being wrong and how many people benefit from witnessing it. As I worked through issues with my husband, I was able to learn and grow, it greatly improved our relationship. Experiencing being wrong in a safe way helped me build trust in releasing that vulnerability more often. It's important to have safe people around you to explore your own growth and emotional evolutions. REFLECT: Do you feel safe admitting you're wrong? Will you avoid admitting you're wrong even when you know you are, because it doesn't feel safe or beneficial to do so? BEHAVIOR SHIFTSWe all come from our childhoods. As my husband and I went through counseling, we realized how much of our communication and perspective came from our childhoods. Much of our expectations and standards were shaped by our families. Working toward better communication and a more peaceful relationship meant releasing the conditioning and learning new ways to interact. TRY: Consider ways you communicate or expectations you have in relationships with friends, family members, or a partner and how they may have come from your childhood, then think about whether this behavior serves you well or if you want to release it. THIS WEEK FROM TML**THANK YOU!! I wanted to take a moment to say thank you to everyone who listened and supported the podcast over the last week (and always!!). Last week's episode (The Hot Potato Game) was my most downloaded episode ever! It hit more than 30 downloads in the first two days, and my total downloads are now over 1,100!! I'm so grateful for each and every one of you. Thank you, Thank you.** Need a little self-love? Check out these articles ππ»
β¨NEW EPISODEβ¨ In this week's episode of The Pursuit of You podcast we dive into The Emotional Hierarchy and how it shapes your relational framework. βListen Nowβ Thank you so much for being here. I hope this was helpful for you and I'd love to hear your feedback! Let me know how this perspective or behavior shift helps. And don't forget to check out TML's Favorites to find all the latest on my book reviews and product recommendations to bring you more peace of mind. π«Άπ» You're worthy of exceptional things, don't forget it. β In warmth & growth, p.s. Check out TML's Yoga section for more on Oracle Card Readings, Yoga in-person and via zoom, guided meditations and more. |
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Hi Iβm Joscelyn, a recovering codependent, people-pleaser, and perfectionist turned Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, and Certified Ritual Guide. I help people let go of toxic habits, situations, and relationships. Check out past editions and sign up below.
Defensiveness is two people pointing weapons at each other, one must put theirs down first for anyone to start feeling safe. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS Last week I shared a story on threads and talked about both my experience in couples counseling and sharing that story with other people. I had to admit that I was wrong in order to move forward in my relationship. My husband also had work to do, but that was his business and his choice. My work was to see where I was holding up a weapon and choose to...
Expressing your thoughts and feelings will feel like a burden if you're overly concerned with how it makes someone else feel. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS When you're made to feel like you're too hot to handle, you're more likely to withhold your true thoughts and feelings. People often use a tactic I call The Hot Potato Game to make someone else feel like they're "too much" to avoid rejection or to not deal with feelings. If you've been made to feel like you're being too serious or you can't take a...
"The health of any relationship depends greatly on communication and met needs." PERSPECTIVE A non-seeker is someone who is not trying to understand you but is rather challenging you to get them to understand. It may feel like they're being evasive even when they're presenting as trying to understand. When you encounter a non-seeker you can see them as needing help or as using a tactic to avoid an exchange of empathy. Understanding is like climbing a mountain. You won't reach the top...