The first step to turning an unhealthy relationship into a healthy one is taking care of yourself. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS I recently shared a story on threads about my husband and I in couples counseling. In the story, I talked about how I thought I had our problem all figured out but I was wrong. Something I didn't expect from sharing that story, was how many people would commend me for admitting my fault and taking accountability. I realized what a strength it is to admit being wrong and how...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Expressing your thoughts and feelings will feel like a burden if you're overly concerned with how it makes someone else feel. PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS When you're made to feel like you're too hot to handle, you're more likely to withhold your true thoughts and feelings. People often use a tactic I call The Hot Potato Game to make someone else feel like they're "too much" to avoid rejection or to not deal with feelings. If you've been made to feel like you're being too serious or you can't take a...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
"The health of any relationship depends greatly on communication and met needs." PERSPECTIVE A non-seeker is someone who is not trying to understand you but is rather challenging you to get them to understand. It may feel like they're being evasive even when they're presenting as trying to understand. When you encounter a non-seeker you can see them as needing help or as using a tactic to avoid an exchange of empathy. Understanding is like climbing a mountain. You won't reach the top...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
PERSPECTIVE ADJUSTMENT Empathy may seem like a simple way to connect but empathizing is as physically exhausting as running. Consider how tired you feel after trying to understand or help another person this week. How could you have helped, supported, or offered guidance without extending empathy? JOURNAL: Do you believe it's ever ok to withhold empathy from someone? Why or why not? There are people who will try to access your empathy without your consent. In my book, Unraveling the Human...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, I hope your 2024 is off to an amazing start. If not, don't worry, New Year, More YOU! starts today! We're going to begin with a commitment to self and uncover the why behind being open to changes at this time. Check out the schedule below. Join the Facebook group here 👉🏻 https://www.facebook.com/groups/709391317715880/ Monday | Jan 8, 2024 9am EST ✨ COMMITMENT TO SELF ✨10am EST Kristi Santilli - Professional Organizer 12pm EST Jen Liss - Unleash Your Unique Brilliance Breathwork 1pm...
7 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Phew, we made it! Let's take a breath on that for a minute. One more year in the books and another chapter wide open. 2023 was a rough year for me, how was it for you? Did you experience any big changes, transitions, or revelations? If so, I hope all the lessons and growth opportunities are integrating nicely. I hope you're feeling stronger, grounded, and more centered. I won't take up too much of your precious time today because I know New Year's Day represents its own ceremonial...
7 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Can you believe it's the end of 2023 already?? I'm having mixed emotions. This was an incredible growth year for me and my family. We've been going through a transition the last few years so this was really a time of stepping out of the cocoon and into our reality. And I'm glad we're past it, but woah, it went quick! Today I want to share: Some Things... I embraced and let go (would love to hear yours too!) Changes to The Group Course & Coaching announcements, yay!! Latest Podcast...
7 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader, You're doing great. I know this time of year is hard, maybe this day was exhausting for you. Or maybe it was the whole month. Either way, I wanted to send you a note to remind you that you're worthy of rest. You're worthy of praise, of gratitude, appreciation, and love. All that you do is enough. You are enough. And it's so important to believe that. Belief is such a powerful driver behind our actions. I'll be talking about that live Tuesday, in the group, New Year, More YOU!...
7 months ago • 1 min read
hey Reader, Happy Monday! There are TWO WEEKS left in this year. Can you believe that? I'm still in denial. Ever since the pandemic time has felt different. Or maybe I don't document it the same. Either way, this year has flown by for me. And it was a big transformation year, I set a lot of boundaries and made a lot of personal changes. My plan for 2024 is to make sure those changes stick and to continue following the path I found for myself through consistent self-discovery. Looking back at...
7 months ago • 1 min read